Why is control so important to him and why is he so selfish?
1) Because he thinks he can - and SHOULD - control you
2) Because he's terrified of being controlled
3) Because he's terrified of being abandoned
4) Because he doesn't feel grownup inside, even though he may appear adult outside.
No matter what he says you did, he has no right to hurt you
2018 Mindful Pause / Proactive Mindfulness
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