If I were different would he stop?
Yes and no. Some batterers learn to respect a woman setting firm limits and cease or lessen certain behaviors - say, physical aggression. However, this doesn't end their central need to control you. (see below)
Other batterers step up their behavior on all fronts when they feel defied by a woman.
No matter what he says you did, he has no right to hurt you
See also: From Mindless To Mindful: Active Pause®
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